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Divorced Moms: 6 Steps to Evaluate Your Progress toward Change

Back on November 1, I suggested that to make desired changes in life after divorce divorced moms could try the NaNoWriMo approach. (You can read that post here.) At that time I committed to writing a blog post every day for the month of November – 30 days, 30 posts.

Now that it’s November 30, it’s time to take a look at how I did – and time to assess how you’re doing with any changes you wanted to make as well. Here are 6 steps to evaluating your progress and figuring out what to do next.

  1.  Gather the facts.
  2. Is it working? An objective observation.
  3. Is it working? A subjective assessment of your feelings.
  4. Reassess and decide if you will recommit.
  5. Identify any changes that will make the process more effective.
  6. Continue toward your goal for another increment of time.

Here’s how I would apply this 6-step process to my own experience of daily blogging this past month. You can adapt as appropriate for your own changes in life after divorce.

  1.  Gather the facts:  I blogged daily for 29 of the 30 days in November. The day I missed was due to a scheduling miscalculation on a multi-day post.
  2. Is it working? From an objective standpoint, I would say yes. 29 out of 30 days is a very high success rate. There were more readers than usual, too, which I take as a sign of effectiveness.
  3. Is it working? From a more subjective standpoint, I would say the results are mixed. Blogging daily meant taking time from other activities, since I usually write at night after my day job is done. And coming up with a topic every day meant that not all posts were as well-crafted and relevant as I would have liked. Some days were easier than others. However, more readers and more opportunities to interact with others is a big upside. So I consider this experiment a success, but not overwhelmingly so.
  4. Reassess and decide if you will recommit. I’m pleased that I was able to keep my commitment to blog every day, and I like the increase in readers and people interacting with me on Twitter as well. However, I have decided not to recommit to daily blogging. Rather, I will return to posting once or twice a week, which allows me time to let ideas gel and to create more relevant and well-written posts.
  5. Identify any changes that will make the process more effective. As noted in #4, I believe I can be more effective by blogging less frequently. This applies not only to my online site, but to other aspects of my businesses and my personal life where the time could be used for other priorities, especially with the approaching holidays and the return of my older kids in mid-December.
  6. Continue toward your goal for another increment of time. If you’re recommitting, this is where you’d identify another interval and assessment point and then begin your modified actions. If, like me, you’re not continuing, you might look at what worked and what didn’t and see if there is anything you can learn from the experiment. I don’t consider myself a failure because I decided not to continue, and you shouldn’t either – even if your goal is a more important one such as changing in your eating or exercise habits or the way you interact with your kids. Viewing your actions as an experiment takes the pressure off and lets you try anew in different ways, should you so desire.

I’ll continue to write, albeit slightly less often, and I hope you continue toward the important goals in your life, too – one day at a time.

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